Hi. I lost my beloved husband to a massive heart attack while we were on holiday in Portugal. He’d just gone to have a shower before us going out for dinner with friends. I heard a crash and called out to him but he didn’t answer. I rushed into the bathroom to find him dead with his head on the mixer taps. I never realised people could just die like that. I rang a friend as I didn’t know what emergency number to ring but they wouldn’t talk to her as she wasn’t with us. That was nearly two years ago. I think about Chris on waking every morning and constantly throughout the day. I thought I was coping pretty well with the grief but following a friends funeral in February I’ve been very tearful and I’m pretty sure it’s not her death that’s causing it but a delayed reaction to the trauma if Chris’s death. I haven’t had any counselling although I tried early on but kept hitting brick walls. I’m considering seeking some help now. Does anyone have any suggestions about the best sort of counselling I should seek.
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Hello. I can only say sorry for your loss. I agree counciling is necessary. I have learned there are not any grief stages. Our whole life's routine is shattered into pieces. The mind is broken as well as the heart. This phase in life is harsh and devistating. Please don't listen to people who rush you into feeling better just because they do not understand the grief. I suggest letting your emotions out anytime. Just cry to people who know this grief. In time when you are ready try social activities and surround yourself with people on hard holidays. If I may share, I do understand something for myself is that I did not make my 40th Anniversary. So we both will take tiny baby steps and move toward a new life path. Mega hug.