Support & Healing

Time since Mandy doesn’t heal.  I am not healing, Mandy was not an illness or an amputation.  I have nothing to heal from.  Just like a child, a toddler, a teenager, a young person, a young married man, a new father, a new everything I have never experienced before … I am just a “new since Mandy”.  And I have learned how easy it is to live in the eternity of a moment.  The infinite and forever that being in the moment can seem.  And because I now know eternity and the infinite I needed “an opposite” to combat being stuck in a place that ripped me apart all the time.  And that “opposite” went though much evolution and finally emerged as a never-ending series of “phases”.  Phases are simply finite chunks of eternity.  Named usually once something has changed - named when something seems impossible – named when caught in a…

Hi my name is Mandy from JHB South Africa.

It has been 7months and two weeks since my beloved husband passed away. It was sudden and so unexpected. I was out of the country, and he called me to let me know that he was not feeling well, and I knew that something was not right; I could sense it. We were married for 28 years. Childhood sweethearts. He was playing tennis and collapsed. His tennis buddies rushed him to the ER, and they tried everything they could to save him. I was miles away, stuck in an airport, feeling helpless and traumatised. I had to fly back home, and it was the longest most horrendous flight of my life. The pain and sense of loss is a massive, gaping hole. He was my best friend, my soulmate. I feel so lost. How does one continue? I have my thre…

Hi my name is charlotte 46 from devon i found my husband passed away 3 weeks ago today in our spare room from a heart attack myself & neighbour did cpr but he had been gone a while.

I then went to my mums & to friends but now back home with my dogs alone, i suffer from anxiety and had thoughts i would be better not here i said i wouldnt cope without him and he said i was stronger than i thought, i live in a village with not much community and i have no transport or buses and a half done kitchen that hubby started plus a storage unit full of stuff and a loft which needs clearing i just dont know what to do and i am angry he left me and i have so many questions about the future no one can answer, i just…

Hi, I'm Nicky, the founder of The Widowed Collective I wanted to create a free to access not for profit peer to peer support group for widows and widowers of all ages regardless of where they are in their widowed journey.

I just thought I'd share a few thoughts on my experiences of counselling, my husband sadly suffered a catastrophic brain injury in 2017 which rendered him profoundly disabled, he was in a nursing home for 3 years until he died of covid in 2020. I started counselling back in 2017 and continued for 2 years while I adjusted to visiting him in a nursing home and solo parenting an 11 year old child while running our business (a large events company) I was suffering terribly from shock and depression, I was technically married but emotionally widowed my life literally destroyed overnight. Counselling definitely helped in this stage of anticipatory…