A long journey
Hi
My hubby Nigel died on 14th April 2023, age 58 after fighting cancer for over 11 years. When he was diagnosed our children were 1 and 3 years old and I was 38.
My youngest is 15 today and I wonder how different our lives would be, but there's little point as it doesn't change the reality. Both children were diagnosed as having autism at a young age and in some respects their factual outlook helped. We were always truthful with them in an age appropriate way and didnt hide anything when their daddy had to have more operations or chemo. I couldn't have made it through without them.
The flip side is my youngest has high anxiety and social issues as part of her autism and I know in my heart Nigel would not understand her. We are waiting for family counselling because the kids did not have…
Dear Danielle - like every one here yours is that wonderful combination of intense pain, absolute pragmatism, this hard to describe “keep going” quality, and everything else. As for those who don’t get it, who raise an eyebrow, or all of the multitude of different ways we judge each other (without judging anyone at all - obviously) - huge respect and brotherly hugs. You sound remarkably balanced and making good choices where nothing equipped any of us to make all these choices. Thank you so much for sharing - my own learning is that love is so much stronger than death. And that life never stops for those of us yet to find it sometimes does - enjoy living. Paul ❤️❤️❤️